Practical UK guidePublished by ChatFriends

A troll wants attention, disruption or an emotional reaction. You do not owe them an argument, and leaving a conversation is not admitting defeat.

Pause before replying

A short pause helps you decide whether a response will solve anything or simply extend the disruption.

Use mute, block and report

The report button appears beside public chat messages and private messages. Use it on the relevant message so the report includes useful context.

Preserve evidence of serious abuse

Save messages, timestamps and usernames if there are threats, stalking, hate speech or repeated harassment.

Look after yourself afterwards

Targeted abuse can be upsetting even when it comes from a stranger. Step away, speak to someone supportive and seek police help if you believe there is an immediate threat.

Separate disagreement from targeted abuse

Not every blunt opinion is trolling. Look at the pattern: repeated provocation, personal targeting, attempts to derail every subject, impersonation or messages designed only to upset somebody. A clear distinction helps moderators act fairly.

You can disagree without labelling a person. Respond once to a genuine point if useful, then stop when the exchange becomes circular or abusive.

Escalate serious behaviour

Threats, stalking, publication of private information or credible indications of immediate harm go beyond ordinary room disruption. Preserve the original evidence and contact the appropriate platform team or police service.

Avoid announcing every reporting step in the room. Quietly securing evidence and following the proper process is usually safer than challenging somebody who is seeking attention.

Protect the room without feeding the disruption

One calm boundary can help genuine misunderstanding; repeated replies usually reward deliberate provocation. When the pattern is clear, stop answering, capture the necessary context and use mute, block or report controls.

Regular members should keep talking to one another rather than allowing the disruptor to set every subject. Do not quote abusive messages repeatedly or organise a public attack. Both actions spread the harm and can make moderation harder.

After a serious incident, check in privately with the person targeted if that is appropriate, but do not pressure them to recount what happened. Threats, stalking and exposure of private information may require police help as well as platform moderation.

Remember: Online guidance cannot cover every situation. Protect personal and financial information, trust your instincts and ask a moderator or appropriate professional for help when necessary.

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