Join as yourself
Bring your interests, humour and everyday stories to the room. Nobody needs an impressive introduction or a particular background to become part of a good conversation.
Show interest in different experiences
Use the name a member asks you to use, listen to how they describe their own life and ask thoughtful questions when you are genuinely curious.
Find common ground and enjoy different views
People can enjoy the same room while holding different opinions and traditions. Respectful conversation leaves space for those differences as well as the subjects everyone shares.
Ordinary conversation is part of belonging
People can talk about television, work, music, pets or the weather without being expected to explain an entire identity or background. Being included often begins with being treated as an ordinary part of the room.
Use the name and form of address a member requests. If you make a genuine mistake, correct it briefly and continue with the conversation.
Different perspectives make conversation richer
Members will bring different histories, traditions, abilities and ways of seeing the world. Ask thoughtful questions, listen to the answer and share your own experience without treating it as the only possible one.
Common ground does not require everybody to be the same. A welcoming room can hold friendly disagreement, curiosity and humour while still making space for each person to take part.
Bring the interests that feel like you
Talk about the music, places, hobbies, programmes or everyday experiences you genuinely enjoy. Shared interests give different people a relaxed way to get to know one another.